Grief is generally magnified at holidays.  Spending the holiday without a loved one is difficult and it does not matter if it’s the first holiday or the twentieth.  Grief is not a linear process.  You don’t just go through the steps and everything is better.  Instead grief is an ongoing process of using coping skills and some moments are more difficult, holidays being one of those times.  What do you do to cope through the grief of the holidays?  If you have additional things you do, please let us know by sending us a message or commenting below.  Here are our suggestions!

1)      Talk about the person who is not at the event.  Saying the name of the person who cannot be with you, is not going to make anyone sadder.  They are already thinking about their loved one anyways.  Share memories, laugh, cry, talk about that person that all of you are missing.  People find healing in knowing their loved one is never forgotten. 

2)      Some people will set out a place setting for the person that cannot be there.  Others may keep a tradition, like their favorite candy or cookies to be enjoyed by others while remembering the loved one that cannot be at the holidays.  Be creative on this one and make it something meaningful and special to you.

3)      Bring a picture of your loved one that has passed away and set it up at the holiday gathering.  Bring a card for everyone to write in and send a message to your loved one. 

Grief and loss are so difficult.  If you are having a hard time getting through this season as a result of grief and loss, we would love to set up a time to meet with you individually.  Please give us a call if you need additional supports.